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My couples coaching practice was born out of the
coaching I do with executives and business owners. With many business
clients we eventually work holistically on all aspects of life.
Making sure that the plan works for both partners is critical,
which can lead naturally to couples coaching (see Life
In the last few years, I have had some projects
that began as couples coaching. In those cases, the couple realized
that they wanted to develop a new chapter in their lives together
and sought my help to help them make it happen.
Why do people call for couples coaching?
Often an external event precipitates the couple
wanting to plan a new life chapter. Some examples include:
- Newly married
- Moving to a new location
- Having children
- Kids leaving home
- A partner wanting to change careers
- A physical challenge
- Making a relationship work better
- Working on financial issues
How is couples coaching different from individual
I think of couples coaching as coordinating three
individual coaching projects-each of the partners plus the relationship.
A successful, sustainable result must work for both partners and
support a vibrant relationship. The couple decides which aspects
of each of their lives will be included in the work we do together.
How does couples coaching compare to psychotherapy
My work with couples builds upon a relationship
that is basically stable. If a couple is significantly challenged
interpersonally or unsure whether they wish to stay together,
they aren't good candidates for couples coaching. However, one
of the explicit goals of couples coaching is to strengthen the
What work do you do other than improve the relationship?
Often there are other aspects that require special
focus. Sometimes they are financial, sometimes career oriented,
or in response to external event.
How do couples begin working with you?
Before we begin the formal coaching, I typically
have a short conversation with each partner separately and then
with couple together. Like any other coaching we must decide that
we have good interpersonal compatibility and are clear about the
What is the typical duration of a couples coaching
The duration of the coaching depends upon
the goals to be achieved. In most cases, my coaching contract
is a minimum duration of three months. Clients often choose to
extend the coaching relationship to achieve the results set out
initially. In some cases, when couples are working on a specific,
focused issue, we can complete the work in less than three months.